Weddings.

My post yesterday was about weddings and I thought that it might be nice to expand on that topic.  When I worked at the hotel I probably worked close to two hundred weddings.  I've been to a few as either guest, groomsman or groom also.  Some of the things I've learned are pretty basic and some are more profound.

The wedding is designed by people and it has people in it, it will NOT be perfect.  Deal with it.  The saying is the more things wrong with your wedding then the longer you will be married.  Additionally, it's "your day", that means the focus should be on the bride; that does not mean that you can be a spoiled little princess.  Again, deal with it.

Some do's and don'ts:  If you schedule the wedding around a meal time then you should feed the guests.  No matter what time you schedule it put in the invitation what will be there to eat (buffet, appetizers, plated, etc.).  Expect the unexpected; it will rain, there will be mud.  Groomsmen have it somewhat easy, we rent a tux or suit and show up sober, then we get to hang out with some attractive lady that wants to get out of an ugly dress.  The bridesmaids on the other hand seem to be cursed with crap.  Rare are the attractive bridesmaid dresses.  These dresses are bought not rented; pick out a dress that can be used again.  If the bride is short and doesn't want to be the shortest lady there have them wear ballet slippers, not be barefoot (seen that, that bride was spoiled little princess bitch).  Don't expect your bridesmaid to cover a tattoo just because it's your wedding; if she's enough of your friend for you to ask then you shouldn't mind her ink.  Do have fun.

For you parents, it's not your wedding.  Even if you're paying for everything it's still not your wedding.  If the bride or groom wants to do something then do it.  If you think that your child isn't mature enough to make the right decision for their wedding then maybe you didn't raise them right.  Deal with it, let them do their own thing and if you want to pick up the tab do it.  If not then you need to let them know in advance.

There are so many other things I've seen but they don't really matter.  It's a day, one day.  Your marriage is supposed to be for eternity.  Do the wedding and save your energy for the marriage.