Changes and expectations.

I have an anniversary coming up.  Of course I'm trying to figure out how to top my wife's favorite gift (a garbage disposal) from me.  I'm still in the brainstorming phase.  During all of this thinking about marriage I also thought about marriages I've watched, some still working and some not.

Some of the failed marriages I've seen were caused by expectations.  The expectation that one partner of the marriage will change.  It's a standard gag in sitcoms that the wife will try to change her husband.  Do wives really try this?  I don't know.

I do know that if a person tries to change their spouse then they are really saying that they aren't really impressed with the person they married.  If a person learns different ways to make their spouse happy is that changing?  Nope, just the normal give and take between spouses.

Maybe couples just need more communication.